There is a specific couple we built this for. You know who you are. You are still together. You are functioning — probably well. You are raising your family, building across multiple areas of life, sitting in church, doing what needs to be done. And underneath all of it, both of you know something is structurally wrong. Not broken. Not in crisis. Just — not right. And every conversation you have tried to have about it has either gone sideways or quietly dissolved back into the routine.

That couple does not need more conversations. They need someone to get in the room with them, help them name what has never been named, and build — from scratch, together — the foundation they have both been living without.

That is what The Marriage Accord™ is.

"We are not here to fix you. The Word defines marriage. We point you back to it."
What It Is — And What It Isn't

Not Therapy. Not a Program. Not a Retreat.

Not
Therapy — we are not licensed clinicians and this is not clinical intervention
Not
Curriculum — there is no workbook, no program, no formula you follow
Not
A retreat — you do not come to be inspired and leave unchanged
Not
Coaching — no ongoing sessions, no monthly check-ins, no accountability subscription
It Is
Two days of truth applied directly to your marriage — couple-specific, not formula-driven
It Is
A private experience for one couple at a time — no group, no audience
It Is
Built on the Biblical model of marriage and delivered by two people who have lived it
The Four Sessions

What Two Days Actually Looks Like.

The Marriage Accord™ is structured across four sessions of approximately three hours each, delivered across two consecutive days. Every session is built around your marriage specifically — not a script, not a workbook, not a formula. The questions are real. The work is real. And both of you are in the room for all of it.

01Day One — Morning

The Real State of Your Marriage

Honesty about where you actually are. Division, fear, self-protection, the patterns that have calcified. Before anything can be built, what is actually present has to be named — not managed, not softened. This session creates the honest starting point everything else is built from.
02Day One — Afternoon

Forgiveness

Pre-marital wounds, patterns carried in, what was never resolved. Every marriage carries unfinished business from before it started. This session — informed by Caleb and Carla's certification as Forgiveness Coaches through forgivingforward.com — addresses what is actually driving the division, not just its symptoms.
03Day Two — Morning

Writing Your Unified Vision

One written, spoken, agreed-upon declaration of who you are as a household and where you are going. Built together. Signed by both of you. For most couples, this is the first document their marriage has ever had — and it becomes the thing you return to when the season gets hard.
04Day Two — Afternoon

Structure — Leading With Intention

How to lead your marriage with a unified vision as the operating document. What changes. What it looks like to make decisions together from a written foundation. What the next 90 days are. You leave with not just a vision — but the structure to execute it.
What You Leave With

You Leave With Something Most Marriages Never Have.

At the end of two days, you leave with a Foundation named, an Agreement written, and a unified Vision — spoken aloud together, signed and dated by both of you — for the first time. Not a sense of optimism. Not renewed motivation. A document. A structure. A foundation that holds when the season gets hard and the emotion fades.

"Two days is not a shortcut. It is the concentrated work most marriages defer for decades — until deferring it costs more than doing it ever would have."
The Proof That Built This

We Did This Work in Our Own Marriage First.

The four sessions inside The Marriage Accord™ were not written from theory. Caleb and Carla sat down and worked through all four sessions in their own marriage before they ever led another couple through them. What surfaced in those two days had never been named — in twenty-seven years of marriage.

We started our marriage driven by fear. No unified vision. No written direction. Two people who loved each other and had no idea what they were actually building toward — or whether they were building the same thing at all. The Foundation statement we wrote at the end of Session 1 was the first one our marriage had ever had. The Vision statement at the end of Session 3 was the first time we had ever declared — in writing, together — where we were going.

That is what is waiting for you in two days. Not inspiration. Not a certificate. The actual work — done alongside two people who have already sat where you are sitting and built their way to the other side.

Who This Is For

The Divided Couple. Still Intact. Still Choosing Each Other.

The Marriage Accord™ is built on the Biblical model of marriage — one man and one woman in covenant before God. It is not designed for couples in visible public crisis requiring clinical intervention. It is not for same-sex couples or couples outside that covenant structure.

It is for the couple that is still together but no longer moving as one. The couple that makes decisions independently — sometimes secretly. That has no written unified vision. That operates from fear and self-protection instead of faith. That has pre-marital wounds neither of them has fully named. That is on the edge — not of ending things, but of letting another year pass without building what the marriage was always supposed to be built on.

"Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates."
Deuteronomy 6:9
Who Leads It

We Don't Teach From a Textbook. We Teach From a Marriage.

Twenty-seven years married. Five kids. Multiple businesses built together — through cancer, financial collapse, fear-based decision making, and every version of the division we just described. We are certified Forgiveness Coaches through forgivingforward.com. We are published authors. We have been leading couples through this framework in homes, churches, and private settings since 1999.

None of that is the credential that matters most. What matters is that we have been where you are. We built our way out. And we have spent nearly three decades helping other couples do the same. The authority is not a degree. It is a testimony — and a marriage that held through everything that was supposed to break it.

Ready to apply?

The Marriage Accord™ begins with a conversation.

One couple. Two days. A private application to start. If this is the right fit, we will reach out directly to schedule a conversation before anything else moves.
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Start with the book that explains everything.

You're Not Drifting. You're Divided. Names the Competence Trap, explains how division forms, and gives you the FAVE framework to begin. The right on-ramp before the Accord — or the answer on its own.
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C&C
Caleb & Carla Nelson
Founders of Post & Gate™. Married 27 years. Five kids. Published authors, certified Forgiveness Coaches, and the creators of The Marriage Accord™ and The FAV Weekend™. They operate multiple businesses together and have led couples through the FAVE framework since 1999. They teach from testimony, not theory.